It seems in the winter time I often hear the lament of “It is so cold and lousy outside I am eating for comfort and I can’t exercise because of the snow, wind, cold,etc.” Well that certainly seems reasonable as the next sentence is “I will lose the weight in the summer because I will eat healthier and move more.”
Well, winter comes and goes and the summer arrives and the struggle goes on. “I have so many social events and barbecues and cocktails that it is very hard to resist.” I am not as active because it is too hot, cloudy, rainy outside.” “I will lose the weight once the fall and winter come around.”
source link The scale becomes a place of fear as patients preface their weigh in with “this is going to be bad” or other catastrophic thoughts. Some people have magnified their weight gain to the point of not coming in for fear of exposing just how poorly they have done. They give in to negative distortional thinking of “ I am doomed to be fat and can’t lose the weight no matter how hard I try”
go site At these difficult times, it is important to step back and reconsider what it is you truly want. Do you really want to lose or perhaps maintain for the summer and put renewed effort back once the summer is over. The visits are more important than ever to the office because the catastrophic thinking has skewed your sense of what you have accomplished and what you can still accomplish. A 1# weight gain can be remedied. A 10# weight gain at the end of the summer is more difficult to get back to baseline.
christmas for me essay I recently read a book called “the Biology of Desire” and it talks about the drive to get to food, drugs and alcohol is all the same. It is about the desire to get the “fix” and the cue and anticipation that propel us forward. Once the first bite, sip or injection is done, the rest doesn’t matter. Think about the last time you had one of your trigger foods. You may remember the first bite, but after that the rest is a blur. Does anyone think as fondly of the 10th cookie as they remember the anticipation of how the cookie will taste in their mouths before they start compulsively overeating?
I listened to a podcast that tells us to “be curious” about our behavior when we start to go back to old patterns and habits. When you light up that first cigarette or eat that forbidden food what are you feeling? How does it really taste? How are you feeling by the second pack of the day or when the binge is over? We talk about food as comfort and reward but what is the comfort? Feeling horrible afterwards and the reward is guilt, shame, and feelings of having failed.
Think about what you really want and your motivation level. We never judge you whether you have not come in a year or gained in a month. As a matter of fact, it requires a lot of courage to confront what is at the root of everything and get the help you need.
There is a difference between dieting and recovery. There is hope for recovery with everyone who walks through our doors.